Lesson 4 The Mystery of Love

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Study Points

Listening & Speaking

◦ 추측하여 말하기: You don't really seem to be yourself.

◦ 확인하기: Is there something you're not telling me?

Reading

◦ 사랑에 빠지게 되는 요인에 대해 설명하는 글 읽기

Writing

◦ 자신의 이상형에 대해 기술하는 글쓰기

Language Structure

◦ All human beings have something called a "love map."

◦ Studies have shown that people are attracted to those who have similar values and    beliefs.

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Get Started

1. Look at the table below and circle your answers.

2. Compare your answers with a partner.

How important are the following when you fall in love?

◦ Physical Appearance

◦ Personality

◦ Sense of Humor

◦ Common Interests/Hobbies

◦ Manners

◦ Intelligence

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Listen & SpeakⅠ

A Listen and number the pictures (1-3).

[녹음 대본]

1

G: Hey, Randy. You don’t really seem to be yourself.

B: What do you mean I’m not myself?

G: You daydream in class and you forget your homework.

B: Actually, there’s this girl in my class.

G: I knew it. You’re in love.

2

W: You don’t really seem to be energetic today. What’s the matter?

B: Nothing, I’m just exhausted. That’s all.

W: Why? Did you stay up late last night?

B: Not just last night. I haven’t gotten enough sleep all week.

W: That’s too bad.

3

G: You seem to be tired today. What’s up?

B: Oh, I have a cold. Nothing serious, though.

G: That’s too bad. Did you take any medicine?

B: Yeah. But it doesn’t seem to be working.

G: I think you should go see a doctor.

B Listen and choose Narae's problem.

a. She does not want to be herself.

b. She does not want to talk to her mother.

c. She has too much science homework.

[녹음 대본]

W: What’s going on, Narae? You don’t seem to be yourself lately.

G: It’s my science class, Mom.

W: What about it?

G: I have too much science homework. I have been staying up really late these days.

W: I’m sorry to hear that.

G: And I’m not going to get a good grade unless my homework is perfect.

W: Don’t worry. You’re one of the best students in your class.

C Match the pictures with the expressions and talk with a partner.

A‥ Hey, you don't seem to be yourself these days.

B‥ What do you mean by that?

A‥ You smile all the time.

B‥ Actually, I have a crush on Ryan.

1. very quiet / waiting for a call from my audition

2. stare at your cell phone all the time / sick with a cold

3. have no energy / nervous about my test this week

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Listen & SpeakⅡ

A Listen and number what you hear (1-3).

Is there something... ?

□ I've been seeing someone these days.

□ I can't stop thinking about this boy in my class.

□ I had a fight with my best friend.

□ I studied hard for the English test but I failed it.

[녹음 대본]

1

B: Emily, you seem worried these days.

G: I’m just a little tired. I’m okay.

B: Is there something you’re not telling me?

G: Actually, I studied hard for the English test but I failed it.

B: No wonder you look so down.

2

B: Is there something you want to tell me, Nora?

G: I don’t know what you’re talking about.

B: You can’t fool me. You haven’t been yourself these days.

G: To tell you the truth, I’ve been seeing someone these days.

B: I knew it. I’m so happy for you.

3

B: Is there something you’re not telling me?

G: Actually, I can’t stop thinking about this boy in my class.

B: Aha! You’re in love, Jane.

G: But I hardly know him.

B: Trust me. Love can make you do the craziest things.

B Listen and fill in the blanks with the appropriate expressions.

a. I'm going on a first                with my girlfriend today.

b. But I don't know                       .

c. Well, how about                       together?

[녹음 대본]

G: Hey, what’s wrong?

B: Nothing. I’m just a little nervous.

G: Is there something you’re not telling me?

B: I’m going on a first date with my girlfriend today.

G: Oh, good luck to you.

B: But I don’t know where to go.

G: Well, how about seeing a movie together?

B: That’s a good idea. Thanks.

C Talk about your problem with your classmates and write their advice.

A‥ Is there something you're not telling me?

B‥ Actually, I failed my math test and I don't know what to do.

A‥ Oh, I'm so sorry. Maybe you should change your study habits.

B‥ I guess you're right.

My Problem

e.g. I had an argument with my mom.

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Put It Together

A Listen and answer.

1 What is true about Sally?

a. Sally finished her homework early.

b. Sally doesn't like herself.

c. Sally had to stay up late last night.

2 How does Jenny feel about the boy?

⟶ She feels               ☐terrible.

☐miserable.

☐uncomfortable.

[녹음 대본]

1

B: Sally, you don’t seem to be yourself.

G: Really? I guess I’m just tired.

B: Why? Did you stay up late last night?

G: Yeah. I had so much homework to do.

2

B: Is there something you’re not telling me, Jenny?

G: Actually, there’s a boy in my class and he said he had a crush on me.

B: Oh, really? So, how do you feel about him?

G: He makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do.

B Listen and check (✓) "True" or "False."

a. Victoria thinks Robert is in love with a girl in his class.

b. Robert knows much about the girl.

c. Love can make people do the craziest things.

[녹음 대본]

G: Hey, Robert. Are you okay these days?

B: I guess. Why do you ask, Victoria?

G: Well, you don’t really seem to be yourself.

B: What do you mean I’m not myself?

G: You daydream in class and you don't eat much during lunch.

B: Really? I guess I have been acting a little funny lately.

G: Is there something you’re not telling me?

B: Actually, there’s this girl in my class. I don't know why but I can’t stop thinking about her.

G: I knew it! You’re in love, Robert. Now everything makes sense.

B: No way. How can I be in love with someone that I hardly know?

G: Trust me. Love can make you do the craziest things.

C Complete the following comic strip. Listen and check.

G: Are you okay these days? ...

You don't really                                              .

B: What do you mean?

G: You                        and you don't eat much during lunch.

G: Is there something                              ?

G: I knew it! You're                     , Robert.

Now everything                                 .

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D Make a pair and talk together.

STEP 1 Think about some problems you or your friends might have. Write the                  problems and the advice for them in the blanks.

Problem didn't do well on my test again

⟶ Advice change the way you study

Problem have trouble making new friends

⟶ Advice try to smile all the time

Problem saw my friend cheating on the test

⟶ Advice

STEP 2 Talk with a partner using the problems and advice above.

A‥ You don't seem to be yourself. What's up?

B‥ Oh, it's nothing. I'm OK.

A‥ Really? Is there something that you're not telling me?

B‥ Actually, I didn't do well on my test again. I don't know what to do.

A‥ Maybe you should change the way you study.

B‥ I guess you're right.

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Before You Read

A Match the pictures. What do you think makes people fall in love?

B Number the expressions below using the pictures in A.

☐Opposites Attract              ☐Romeo and Juliet Effect

☐Similarities                     ☐Childhood Experiences

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Let's Read

The  Mystery  of  Love

Have ever been struck by Cupid's arrow? If you have, your symptoms are one or more of the following. You have sleepless nights and restless days. You daydream during class, forget your jacket, walk past your house, stare at your cell phone, constantly check your email, say stupid things, laugh too hard, tell all your secrets, talk all night, walk at dawn or rehearse what you are going to say the next time you meet "him" or "her." Now, what is it about him or her that makes us fall in love with them? Why do we fall in love with James as opposed to Michael, Christine instead of Lisa?

Psychologist John Money believes that all human beings have something called a "love map." Long before you fall in love with a particular person, you have already developed a mental map that determines who you will fall in love with.

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. Name one symptom of falling in love.

2. What is a "love map"?

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According to Money, children develop these love maps between the ages of five and eight through their family, friends, and experiences. For example, as a child you get used to the way your mother speaks and listens, scolds, and pats you and how your father jokes, walks, and smells. You like certain things about your friends and relatives. You dislike others or you connect them with unpleasant events. Gradually, these experiences begin to form a pattern in your mind.

From this unconscious pattern, an image of your ideal love begins to form. Then in your teenage years, your love map becomes quite specific. You imagine exactly how your true love will look―his or her face shape, hair length, height, as well as personality, manners, and other features. So, long before your true love walks into your life, you have already constructed some basic elements of your ideal love. Then when you actually see someone who seems to fit the image, you fall in love with him or her and project your unique love map onto this person. Even if this person is actually different from your ideal, love is blind so you pay little attention to the differences.

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. When do children develop their love map?

2. What do you do when you see someone who seems to fit the image of your

ideal love?

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Now do you think that you are more likely to fall in love with someone that is similar to or different from you? As in the famous expression "Opposites Attract," many people believe that we are attracted to people that are different. For example, a shy boy may be attracted to an outgoing girl. A tall girl may be attracted to a short boy. However, it seems that we are attracted to similarities as well. Studies have shown that people are attracted to those who have similar values and beliefs. It is only natural to want to be with someone that shares most of your views rather than someone that disagrees with you most of the time. Therefore, it is not similarities or

differences alone but the right combination of similarities and differences that makes us fall in love with that special person.

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. What is the famous expression that means being attracted to differences?

2. Who may a shy boy be attracted to?

Q

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Sometimes, special circumstances can contribute to falling in love. For example, have you ever had feelings for someone that you knew you should not have these feelings for? More specifically, have you ever liked a singer or someone that your parents did not approve of ? These kinds of obstacles sometimes add fuel to the flames of love. If a person is difficult "to get," he or she seems more interesting. If the world seems to be against your love, that love seems more worth fighting for and keeping. This is known as the "Romeo and Juliet Effect," from the tragic Shakespearean love story.

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. What elements sometimes add fuel to the flames of love? Q

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Now, these are only some of the reasons for falling in love with that special someone. Of course it would be foolish to assume that a scientific explanation can describe the entire process of love. Even the genius Einstein said that you cannot explain love in terms of chemistry and physics. Perhaps, love was meant to be experienced rather than analyzed. Helen Keller summed it up nicely in a non-scientific approach to love when she said, "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart."

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. What did Helen Keller say about love? Q

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After You Read

Check your understanding

A Choose the main idea of the main text.

a. There are many symptoms when people fall in love.

b. There are many different reasons for falling in love with someone.

c. People construct love maps before they fall in love with someone.

d. Scientific explanations cannot describe the entire process of love.

B Fill in the blanks using the expressions in the box.

◦ Opposites Attract               ◦ Romeo and Juliet Effect

◦ Childhood Experiences          ◦ Parents' Disapproval

◦ Formation of Mental Images     ◦ Something in Common

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C Read and choose the appropriate question for the blank.

Q

A The first thing that happens is that you give special meaning to the person you fall     in love with. That is, you begin to focus all your attention on this special person.     You can remember tiny things he or she said or did. You have a huge amount of     energy, too, which makes it hard for you to sleep. But most important, you cannot     stop thinking about this person.

a. Why do you choose one person rather than another?

b. What happens when you fall in love?

c. Why do you fall in love with someone?

Go further

D Read and answer the numbers of similar ideas.

1 If you have it〔love〕, you don't  need to have anything else.

- Sir James M. Barrie

2 At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet. - Plato

3 Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

- Franklin P. Jones

⟶ ☐Everything seems beautiful when you are in love.

☐Love is what makes our life worth living.

☐If you have love, you have everything.

Think about it

E What do you think love is? Complete the sentence.

Love is                                                                             .

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Language Focus

A Word Power

out- + going ⟶ outgoing out- + standing ⟶ out- + do ⟶ out- + grow ⟶ out- + live ⟶	physics economics biology psychology sociology

B Useful Expressions

1 □Sometimes, special circumstances can contribute to falling in love.

□Spending too much time in front of the computer may contribute to gaining

weight.

□What do you think you can contribute to our company?

2 □If the world seems to be against your love, that love seems more worth fighting       for and keeping.

□I must make my life worth living.

□The book I borrowed from the library was worth reading.

3 □Einstein said that you cannot explain love in terms of chemistry and physics.

□In terms of quality, this camera is much better than that one.

□The old village has much to offer in terms of tourist attractions.

Check-up Choose the correct words to complete the sentences.

1 He has no opinion which is worth (listen / listening) to.

2 Every player on the baseball team contributed (to / for) winning the gold medal.

3 You may think of job satisfaction in (term / terms) of salary.

4 A balanced diet can contribute (to / with) better health.

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C Pict-O-Grammar

1 We are looking for a student called James.

□All human beings have something called a "love map."

□I received a box of chocolates and a Valentine card sent by a girl in my class.

2 Bad things often await those who want free things.

□Studies have shown that people are attracted to those who have similar values and

beliefs.

□South Africa is a popular tourist attraction for those who love to explore wildlife and

nature.

Check-up Complete the sentences by filling in the blanks.

1 Free conversation class will be set up for                 want to improve their

speaking skills.

2 Once there lived a man              (call) Mike Gerald and he was a great doctor.

3 We are proud of the English newspaper              (make) by our students.

4 Heaven helps help                themselves.

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On Your Own

A Listen and answer.

1 Why is the girl worried?

2 Which of the following statements is true about Sam?

a. Sam has been seeing a girl these days.

b. Sam is frequently late for school these days.

c. Yuna thinks Sam is proud of his appearance.

[녹음 대본]

1

B: You don’t seem to be yourself these days.

G: You’re right. I haven’t been myself lately.

B: Is something troubling you?

G: I’m just a little worried. My mom is in the hospital right now.

2

G: Sam, how come you’re always looking in the mirror these days?

B: I love looking at the mirror. Didn’t you know that, Yuna?

G: Is there something you’re not telling me?

B: Actually, I’m seeing someone these days. She’s really nice.

G: No wonder you’re worried about your appearance.

B Order the sentences in the box to complete the dialog.

What's up, Mike? You don't seem to be yourself these days.

I knew it! You're in love, Mike.

Now everything makes sense.

ⓐ You sing all the time and sometimes laugh too hard.

ⓑ To tell you the truth, I've been seeing someone lately.

ⓒ Is there something you're not telling me?

ⓓ Really? I guess I have been acting a little funny.

ⓔ What do you mean I'm not myself ?

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C Complete the paragraph using the words in the box.

"The Mystery of Love is an amazing and wonderful book. The author provides  a complete picture of why people fall in love                               brain chemistry and scientific research. Reading this book will           your understanding of human relationships between men and women. It will be reading this book."

- Donna E. Wilson, professor of psychology, University of Candordt,

and the author of The Myth of Human Love

contribute           in           worth           of           terms           to

D Choose the correct words to complete the sentences.

1 A man (name/naming/named) Aesop wrote this famous storybook, Aesop’s Fable.

2 The world is for (them who/those who/those which) dream and challenge.

E Read and answer

Why do we fall in love with Tom rather than Bill, Sue instead of Jill? There are

many forces that play a role in who we fall in love with. Timing is important; you

tend to fall in love when you are ready, particularly when you are lonely. Physical

closeness can often contribute to falling in love. We are likely to fall in love with

people who we interact with. Both men and women are attracted to people that

seem mysterious. And most fall in love with someone of the same ethnic, social,

religious, educational, and economic background.

Q>>> Which of the following was not mentioned as the reason for falling in love?

a. timing                         b. similar background

c. intelligence                    d. physical closeness

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More Reading

H o w t o R e a d ④

주제문 파악하기

보통 글은 하나의 주제를 다루며 그것을 가장 잘 드러내는 주제문을 중심으로 일관성 있게 전개된다. 따라서 글의 주제문을 찾으면 글쓴이가 그 글을 통해 말하고자 하는 바를 파악하기가 훨씬 쉽다. 주제문은 문단의 처음 또는 끝에 오는 경우가 많으며,  나머지 문장들이 그 주제문을 뒷받침한다.

다음 글을 읽고, 이 글의 주제문을 찾아 써 봅시다.

There are generally three types of love; eros, philos, and agape. The first kind is eros love which occurs in the first stages of a romantic relationship. This love is based more on physical attraction and two people might be drawn to each other even though they do not know each other well. Philos love is based on friendship between two people. They start out as friends, then grow to admire and respect each other.

The third and highest type of love is agape or unconditional love. It is a type of love that is totally selfless, where a person gives love to another person even if this act does not benefit him or her in any way. Typically, it occurs between parents and children. In essence, eros love is "physical," philos love is "mental," and agape love is "spiritual."

Topic sentence:

Q------------------------------------------------------------------

1. Which love is based more on physical attraction?

2. Where does agape love typically occur?